Becoming a mum

From the moment you decide to have kids to the moment you find out your pregnant - that’s the exciting part! Then you do your 8 to 10 months of pregnancy and then what?

Do you have a baby or in my case, babies (I had twins) and then you live happily ever after? Well I guess that’s what your led to believe or at least feel. What about all the things that happen in between? What about once you’ve had the Baby, what do you do with it?

No, I don’t recall that feeling of happily ever after, did you?

I feel like the world has this huge hype around having babies and raising kids as the feeling of being happy, delighted, overjoyed and so on. No one talks about reality. No one talks about expectations, the pressure, stress, the complications, mental fatigue, the confusion or the frustration.

Maybe your pregnancy was a walk in the park, or maybe it was the total torture where you would have rather not to had been pregnant at all.

Maybe the birth was quick and easy or maybe it was the worst experience of your life or maybe it was the best experience. Did it come down to the way you handled the situation or how your emotions and hormones tested you?

These are things I think about. Does anyone feel how I felt? Am I the only one? What do others feel? How did others feel?

Why don’t we as mums talk about these things? Why do we feel that we have to put on a happy face and show that we have it altogether? We are humans not robots, we have feelings that need to be expressed, so why don’t we? Too busy showing everyone that we can manage, that we are doing great when we really are struggling inside or is it because we think that it’s just normal to struggle?

Look, I’m not super-mum or mum of the year, but my first pregnancy was twins and yes, I know it has been done by many, but this is my story, my thoughts and my feelings. I’ve decided that nothing about my life since finding out I was pregnant, has been normal ever since. So many life changes, moves, relationships challenges, family let-downs, job security and not to mention a world-wide pandemic.

So let me let you in on the craziness life of being a mum in my shoes. Perhaps you can relate or just enjoy the story, but I’m definitely keen to share these thoughts, feelings, opinions and my story with you. I hope you’re ready to hear it!